I’ve been around for a while and supporting my young person for nearly 2 years, and when I look back I can’t believe how things have changed. PD and I are definitely like a double act, and this was evident from the moment we met! I have to say we were matched perfectly. I started the role of an Independent Visitor as, to be honest, I had to have an early hysterectomy and was steered into the world of fostering. At the time work commitments and life were getting in the way and it wasn’t the right time (not that there ever is one) so I was recommended the Independent Visitor scheme.
Without getting emotional, the scheme has personally given me so much. I have the privilege of spending time with my wonderful young person, and we laugh until our bellies hurt! Of course, it’s not always a laugh a minute, and you do need to listen and be able to react and reflect when needed.
We have a unique friendship, and I always feel that I can be myself, and not feel judged. I know it’s meant to be the other way around which I hope it is but it works both ways. The time I spend with my young person is so relaxing, it distracts from work/life problems and she always makes me go to get coffee so that’s a bonus
I think her confidence has grown over time and we just enjoy each other’s company, and I also think this has helped me to relax a bit better and not to take life so seriously all the time!
What I’ve also enjoyed is over time the sessions become natural and relaxed, and it’s almost like you have an extra family member.
We don’t talk about what brought her into care unless she wants to, but our time is focused on enjoying our time, a real and honest friendship.
As well as this I have attended school plays, and what an honour that was as I may not be able to experience this again. This may only be a small thing but to me it fills my heart and makes the world a better place, and let's be honest we have to enjoy happiness where we can.
We spend our time together doing all the usual stuff - swimming, cinema, we have had a couple of very funny bike rides! I think my young person found me hilarious riding through Bradgate Park thinking I was a professional, but she soon pointed out I could probably do with some more training!
Sometimes we have made plans, but on the day she may not feel like doing it. Instead we find quiet places and play dominoes for a while (with snacks and drinks of course).
For me being able to become an Independent Visitor has changed my life for the better 100%.
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